Advice for new mothers, don’t worry we might fail at something and excel at something else. Don’t stress too much.
But please don’t laugh too much at my failure, I know you will. But hold it in.
I’m sure you’ve had your share of embarrassing moments, but embarrassing mommy moments I think take the cake. I think most of the times it’s something so stupid. But we end up failing somehow.
I don’t know what happened to me after I gave birth. It feels like a cloud somehow covered my eyes and brain as soon as I went into labor. I’ve never really talked about this cloud or ever heard of anyone mentioning it but it happened to me.
As soon as the doctor told me I was going to have a c-section I blanked out. Total body experience. I didn’t prepare for it, wasn’t expecting it, didn’t even cross my mind because I did NOT want one. I was and still am terrified of operations. Don’t ask me why, but I am.
I remember being wheeled out to the surgical room and everything kinda became foggy from them on, you can read all about my birth story here.
When we were home, my mother stayed with us for a little over a month and I guess it somehow put me very much at ease and I still could feel as if I was having an out of body experience. Everything was so new and difficult.
Gosh, breastfeeding was so difficult. Getting up in the middle of the night after a feeding then getting up for pump afterwards was exhausting. But my mother would let me sleep in a little longer and give my son pumped milk. But within the first week, the first doctor visit was upon us.
My mother in law was going to take us, she took the car seat out of my car and put it in hers, well tried. I got in the car (super hard after a cesarean) and she couldn’t figure out how to install the car seat.
I hadn’t done in my car, my husband did. I didn’t even see him do it. and I couldn’t exactly move well. So we gave up. Now I was crying uncontrollably in the car and I had to make the dreaded phone call to the pediatrician’s office. I spoke to the receptionist crying saying I couldn’t install my baby’s car seat and we can’t make it to the appointment.
She was nice and calmed me down saying it was okay and we could re-schedule.
I was so embarrassed! I couldn’t install a car seat? What kind of mother can’t do that?
A flood of emotions came over me, I’m not a good mom, I can’t do anything right, I can’t even take my son to his doctor’s appointment. It really was a surreal moment for me. We are so delicate after giving birth, at least I was.
We all have insecurities about our parenting but we get through it and today I find it incredibly funny that we missed his first appointment because I couldn’t get his car seat installed.
I told you ONE of my embarrassing mommy moments, what’s yours? Got any advice for new mothers struggling? Got a new mommy in your life? Share this post with her. Reassure here she’s doing great. Share your embarrassing moments in the comments below.
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The New Mom’s Guide to Life with Baby (New Mom’s Guides)
♥Books I’m Reading & Recommend♥
For the Love: Fighting for Grace in a World of Impossible Standards by Jen Hatmaker
The Absorbent Mind by Maria Montessori
Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom by Pamela Druckerman