I’m going insane with the never ending work it is to be a stay at home mother. Are you? The more you do the more you have left. The constant picking up of toys, food off the floor/walls, pile of laundry to do, meals to prepare, errands to run, bills to pay, and whatever else we do at home.
Running a home really is hard work. I read a short blog post the other day (read here) and it really spoke to me. It really isn’t about the things we are doing but it is the giving of ourselves till we can’t give anymore but we pick ourselves up and do more.
I love taking care of my son, it is a privilege to be able to be here for him. To be able to care for my home and family the way I see fit. But I have been thinking lots about how I can make it less taxing on myself so I’m able to happily take care of my duties.
Sometimes all the time I find myself getting aggravated with things that shouldn’t be bothering me to the extent it does. And I think, there has to be a better, healthier and more rewarding way.
So here are my tips and how I’m following this through for everyone’s benefit and sake.
1: ME TIME AND SELF CARE
Moms, we need to take care of ourselves. I know this one is a tough one to get a hold on. Accept or ask for help from others. Go get your nails done, your hair, go see a movie ALONE, sit with a good book, pray, go for a walk/exercise or simply just stop what you’re doing and take a breath. It will all still be there later, so relax and take care of yourself.
Easier said than done. We all have papers we put aside that we hope to get to sooner or later. I know I’m guilty of this one and it just keeps piling on and laughing in my fade every time I pass by the stack of unopened mail, magazines, and coupons I won’t get a chance to use because they are sitting underneath all the crap anyways. My son takes everything out of place, even the furniture. It really is frustrating to always have to put the same knickknacks back. So I’m getting rid of/putting away a lot of things.
3: MAKE LISTS AND SCHEDULE TIMES
I used to be the queen of list making. And I felt so accomplished too after crossing off important items on it. It really is great self-esteem booster. Knowing what needs to be done in the morning, afternoon and night will help you greatly with your happiness levels. You won’t be dilly dallying around, oh I’ll do that later, let me just watch this tv show first (guilty). Stop wasting your time. Get things done so you can enjoy yourself. Which leads me to my last tip.
4: MINIMIZE SCREEN TIME
This is a real though one for me. I write a blog so I can’t escape it too much but I can certainty minimize the scrolling for no reason or checking notifications. I love watching movies, I “DVR” a billion shows and movies. Social media is a joy thief. You know those days when you’ve just had enough and you happen to scroll through your feed and see everyone just having a grand old time. I’m guilty of social media envy. But we all have good and bad moments and we usually don’t advertise the negative. So skip the mindless scroll through Instagram, Facebook, Twitter or whatever other social media account floats your boat. Go out and make memories. Don’t worry about photos or who’s doing what better than you know who. Not to sound too cliché but life IS short and you only get one. Don’t spend it looking at a screen. Unsubscribe to unnecessary emails, unfollow folks you don’t really know and enjoy some face time, the real kind.
These are my happiness tips, you may already be doing them or something different. So what are you doing to maximize your happiness? Let me know in the comments below. Would love to hear from you.
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