Big Things are Coming Up | Preparation Mode ON

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When I first started writing, it was a way of letting go of some steam from the hard work that is motherhood.  As I continued, I got more and more into it.  The technical and social aspects.  But it’s work.  So I’ll be still writing but I won’t put the stress of writing 3 times a week like I have been imposing on myself.

Life happens. Things change.  Baby goes through changes, you sleep less, get less house work done and writing about it seems more like a chore than letting off steam.

I will continue to write. I’ve always loved to read and write and love to share the daily happenings of my life.  I hope to inspire some of you to become mothers.  And root the ones that are mothers already and feel the pain of motherhood and the weight of it. I’m spreading myself thinly lately and mama needs a breather.

We are all in this together. I hope to help you with a virtual shoulder to cry upon or share a great experience you’ve had.

I’m glad I have you all to listen to my ramblings and enjoy everyone of your comments.

Big things are coming up

  • Thanksgiving is just around the corner 
    • Hosting the family this year, around 25+ people coming! Lots of food, lots of fun and lots of mess!!! Nerve-wrecking but exciting none the less.
  • Christmas
    • It’s Nicolas’ first Christmas, I’m beyond pumped to get things rolling. 
  • New Years
    • Okay, let’s just say I’m excited for everything!!!
  • My son’s first birthday!!
    • Need I say more? Cue in the party for the parents! Come on, he’ll love the photos when he’s older.  It won’t be a huge party, but it will be special.

I hope to share a little bit of some decoration inspiration and some yummy recipes.

Thanks for stopping in! Have a great week and I hope to hear from you all.


Just Go With the Flow?

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I’ve read about how children at any moment can change their behavior.  They no longer like a toy, one day they are laying unable to move, next their up on their belly rolling.  The amount of growth that happens with these little people is insane.

The same thing happens with sleep.  Nicolas has always been pretty predictable when it comes to his sleep routine.  But ever since we came back from our month long trip from Jacksonville visiting my parents. THINGS HAVE CHANGED.

The first night back he slept fine, but then it changed to waking up in the middle of night.  Wanting to play!  Wanting to jump on your face at 2 am? Oh man, it’s been rough.  I never know what he’ll do.   Then daylight savings time happened, BOOM! Let me confuse things even more for you.

Whatever happened to my champion sleeper? Baby, come back!

The days & night had kinda become one.  Minimal amount of house work is getting done. I just don’t have the energy.  And when I look again, there is that mess I just cleaned yesterday.  It’s relentless.

{update} Since I began writing this he has slept three days in a row from 6:40 till 5-6 am, oh I hope this lasts.  Today he actually woke up at 5:25 am, had his bottle and went back to sleep until 8:40, this certainly never happens, I’m amazed. Is he back? I hope I didn’t jinx it while writing this.

One thing that has been like clockwork is how much Nico wants me to stay with him every second after his afternoon nap. I usually wait until I have most of the housework done to go out and do something. Maybe go to a park, visit family or shop. I will also not leave the house unless he’s had a nice long nap in the morning.  I have a system in place that I enjoy.

I hate change. (I might have said this before, don’t mind me.)

But I’m trying to go with the flow. Letting go of structure.  So what if the mess doesn’t get picked up as neatly as I’d like it to be? My to-do lists that I’m so attached to? Not even writing them lately.

That’s parenting for ya. Go with the flow.

With prepping for Thanksgiving in a couple of weeks, CHRISTMAS & New Year’s, and his upcoming 1st birthday in just 2 months (WHAT??) My head is about to explode.

Trying to take it one day at a time.  Doing what I can and enjoying my little guy as much as possible. He is growing so fast and I miss my baby already. I see him turning into a little man everyday more and more.  It’s crazy scary! But good. I’m going to enjoy interacting with him.

Soon he’ll be walking and they’ll be no containing him. Good-bye housework!! (Not that I’m complaining)

My procrastinating person is screaming on the inside.   It’s dying for a break. But I must push through and get S*it done.

I need your TOP tips of getting things done as painlessly as possible, write them in the comments below.  

WISH ME LUCK!

5 Ways to Getting Your Baby Asleep FAST!

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I had nap time and bed time squared away for several months.  But it seems as if his sleeping schedule has gone haywire since the time change.  It doesn’t help that we have new teeth coming in. There has been some sleep lost and some stress gained.

I may have touched on the subject of sleep a few times before in previous posts on how important it is for brain development and such. The benefits for baby are fantastic, we all know that.  But as a bonus, we get to actually get things done when they are not around.  You can read more about our sleeping habits here & here.

Having a mobile baby that refuses to sleep is one of my worst nightmares. You get nothing done and spend most of your time just saying No, don’t touch that or getting things out of their hands they shouldn’t be touching.  It really makes for a stressful day.

With the time change, things have shifted quite a bit here.  I’m trying to catch up and make sure my son is comfortable since he has no clue the time has changed. A bedtime that was “scheduled” for 6:30 pm is now “technically” 7:30 pm.  CRANKY BABY CENTRAL! I did meet him halfway and have been slowly pushing the time he sleeps little by little.

The first few days were rough and though I’m still working through a couple of things, we are getting almost settled into our new sleeping patterns.

Here are 5 Tips for getting baby asleep fast!

  1. Make sure your baby doesn’t go from super busy, loud and hyper scenarios to bed. Calming a kid down is a task in itself.  Making sure they are mellow before they go down is super important and less stressful for you and baby. Decompress that baby!
  2. Make sure the room they are sleeping in is cool. Babies don’t regulate their body temperature as well as we do. So making sure they are properly dressed and a cool temperature makes sleep come easier. 
  3. WHITE NOISE! I can’t stress how important this is.  While baby was in the womb, he constantly heard noises. Your heartbeat being one of them.  I have a fan on in the room while he sleeps every time. I even travel with it!  It helps lull them to sleep quicker and helps with outside noise reduction.  
  4. Full tummy.  Not only will that make them sleep longer but if you put  baby to breast or bottle before they are going to sleep it will take no effort to get them to stay asleep.  This has been a life saver for me. 
  5. If all else fails, rocking your baby while making a shushing sound helps tremendously.  Although it requires more work.  I feel their sleep is more important than my arm getting tired.  I don’t want my child missing any zzzzz’s since I know how crucial sleep is to my little guy’s development. 

Here’s to some great naps!

Do you have some other baby sleeping techniques to share? Let me know in the comments below.

Thanks for stopping in!

P.S. I have a giveaway going on right now to Freshly Picked Moccasins, ends 11/18/14 – Click here to put your name in the hat.

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Books I’m Reading & Recommend

For the Love: Fighting for Grace in a World of Impossible Standards by Jen Hatmaker
The Absorbent Mind by Maria Montessori
Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom by Pamela Druckerman

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Freshly Picked Moccasins Review + Giveaway

I’m so excited to be hosting my first ever giveaway for my awesome readers! I’m even more excited that it’s a Freshly Picked Giveaway  of their fabulous moccasins. If you are not familiar with this company you will surely fall in love with them at the end of this review.

Freshly Picked Moccasins Story:

Susan Petersen started making baby moccasins in 2009 after becoming frustrated by the lack of well-designed baby shoes. Using her second child, Gus, as a mocc-tester, and a bag of scrap leather she picked up at a yard sale, she began experimenting with designs. Working at her kitchen table, on a shoestring budget, Susan persisted through some disastrous attempts until she had created a pair of moccasins that not only looked adorable on Gus’ chubby little feet, but stayed on his feet as well.

Since then the moccasins have gone through about six design changes. Each change has perfected the look and the fit of the soft-soled shoe. The moccasins you purchase today are durable, well designed, and most importantly: stay on your child’s foot.

Money was tight at the time Susan started and in order to earn money to start her business she got resourceful. Her brother owns a window installation business and in the summer of 2009 she convinced him to let her keep the old windows that he was removing from the houses. She spent a whole summer banging the glass out of the windows because they were encased in aluminum frames. At the end of the summer she took the aluminum window frames to the scrap yard and recycled them to get money. She made $200 dollars and with that literal sweat equity, she started her business.

Susan also appeared on the T.V. Show The Shark Tank which helped her grow her business even more. Freshly Picked has been a feature in so many blogs, magazines and celebrity children are wearing them like crazy.

So, let’s get to it.

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I was so looking forward to getting these babies in the mail, I had seen countless pictures on their Instagram feed (They have over 284k followers, AMAZING!) and they are all absolutely gorgeous. It was difficult picking just one.  For the purposes of this review, I chose the “Prince George” Freshly Picked moccasins.  Fitting, because…Nico is my little prince.

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They arrive in this beautiful dust bag to keep them protected along with a Freshly Picked pin 🙂

BABY SHOES

These Freshly Picked Moccasins soft-soled leather shoes are incredibly comfortable (No complaints from my little man), they have an elastic band that hug your babes tiny feet so shoes won’t fall off!! They are flexible and mold to their feet.

There is no left or right side, as your child grows into them you will see them taking shape of each individual foot. The Freshly Picked logo is stamped on the bottom of each shoe. All in all, it is great quality product and I couldn’t be happier.

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For those with disposable income, I would certainly get all colors! But having a price tag of $60 bucks a pop makes it more of a special occasion type shoe for me, especially since kiddos grow out of things so fast. Enter below in the Freshly Picked giveaway.

There are 10 different ways to enter via the Rafflecopter widget below.  This contest is only open to residents of the US. Also, you are not eligible to enter if you’ve won a pair of Freshly Picked moccasins in the last 60 days.

GOOD LUCK!

You can take a look at all the colors here, let me know in the comments below which is your favorite!

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**This product was given free of charge for review and giveaway purposes. 

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Thanks for reading.
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Attachment Parenting // The Baby B’s

I don’t know if you’ve noticed but parenting now has become a science. Back in the day, you were born however you came, wrapped up in whatever was accessible, held in arms on your way home from the hospital or in case of a home birth you continued on about your business. No frill, no fuss and definitely no science.  Times have changed, some things for the better and some are just too much!Today, I practice some form of attachment parenting.

What is attachment parenting you may ask?
According to wikipedia:

Attachment parenting, a phrase coined by pediatrician William Sears, is a parenting philosophy based on the principles of attachment theory in developmental psychology. According to attachment theory, the child forms a strong emotional bond with caregivers during childhood with lifelong consequences.

7 Attachment Parenting Tools: The Baby B’s

Attachment parenting is a style of caring for your infant that brings out the best in the baby and the best in the parents. Learn how attachment parenting babies grow up happier and healthier with these 7 practices.

1. Birth bonding
 
The way baby and parents get started with one another helps the early attachment unfold. The days and weeks after birth are a sensitive period in which mothers and babies are uniquely primed to want to be close to one another. A close attachment after birth and beyond allows the natural, biological attachment-promoting behaviors of the infant and the intuitive, biological, care-giving qualities of the mother to come together. Both members of this biological pair get off to the right start at a time when the infant is most needy and the mother is most ready to nurture (see Bonding)

“What if something happens to prevent our immediate bonding?”

Sometimes medical complications keep you and your baby apart for a while, but then catch-up bonding is what happens, starting as soon as possible. When the concept of bonding was first delivered onto the parenting scene twenty years ago, some people got it out of balance. The concept of human bonding being an absolute “critical period” or a “now-or-never” relationship was never intended. Birth bonding is not like instant glue that cements the mother-child relationship together forever. Bonding is a series of steps in your lifelong growing together with your child. Immediate bonding simply gives the relationship between parents and attachment parenting babies a head start. (See “Birth Bonding“)

2. Breastfeeding

Breastfeeding is an exercise in baby reading. Breastfeeding helps you read your baby’s cues, her body language, which is the first step in getting to know your baby. Breastfeeding gives baby and mother a smart start in life. Breast milk contains unique brain-building nutrients that cannot be manufactured or bought. Breastfeeding promotes the right chemistry between mother and baby by stimulating your body to produce prolactin and oxytocin, hormones that give your mothering a boost.

3. Baby wearing

A baby learns a lot in the arms of a busy caregiver. Carried babies fuss less and spend more time in the state of quiet alertness, the behavior state in which babies learn most about their environment. Baby wearing improves the sensitivity of the parents because your baby is so close to you, you get to know baby better. Closeness promotes familiarity with attachment parenting babies.

4. Bedding close to baby

Wherever all family members get the best night’s sleep is the right arrangement for your individual family. Co-sleeping adds a nighttime touch that helps busy daytime parents reconnect with their infant at night. Since nighttime is a scary time for little people, sleeping within close touching and nursing distance minimizes nighttime separation anxiety and helps attachment parenting babies learn that sleep is a pleasant state to enter and a fearless state to remain in.

5. Belief in the language value of your baby’s cry

A baby’s cry is a signal designed for the survival of the baby and the development of the parents. Responding sensitively to your baby’s cries builds trust. Babies trust that their caregivers will be responsive to their needs. Parents gradually learn to trust in their ability to appropriately meet their baby’s needs. This raises the parent-child communication level up a notch. Tiny attachment parenting babies cry to communicate, not to manipulate. (See Crying and Cry it Out)

6. Beware of Baby Trainers

Attachment parenting teaches you how to be discerning of advice, especially those rigid and extreme parenting styles that teach you to watch a clock or a schedule instead of your baby; you know, the cry-it-out crowd. This “convenience” parenting is a short-term gain, but a long-term loss, and is not a wise investment. These more restrained styles of parenting create a distance between you and your baby and keep you from becoming an expert in your child.

7. Balance

In your zeal to give so much to your baby, it’s easy to neglect the needs of yourself and your marriage. As you will learn the key to putting balance in your parenting is being appropriately responsive to your baby – knowing when to say “yes” and when to say “no,” and having the wisdom to say “yes” to yourself when you need help.

Source: www.askdrsears.com

I’m a big believer in this form of parenting.  Our babies are only babies for a brief moment and creating that bond and trust between parent and child is a stepping stone to raising a happy, secure, and balanced adult.  Only thing I no longer do out of this list is breastfeed, which is an unfortunate thing I would have like to at least have reached a 1 year breastfeeding milestone but really extended breastfeeding is what I would have wanted, the WHO (World Health Organization) recommendation is up until 2 years old.

Finding the balance between caring for baby, yourself, your spouse and your home is the tricky part. But it’s something I strive to achieve daily. Sometimes I win, sometimes I lose but with those victories or defeats I’m always growing as an individual, a mother, a lover and friend.

Interested in learning more about Attachment Parenting?  Click here.

What about you? Has your view of parenting changed? Do you parent how you thought you would? Let me know in the comments below.young-love-mommy-blog

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My Very First Giveaway // Freshly Picked Moccasins // Coming Soon!

Hi Everyone!

I’m beyond excited to be able to bring you this awesome giveaway!  I’ve teamed up with the folks over at Freshly Picked and will be giving one lucky reader a moccasin of their own choosing!

Giveaway will begin next Monday! Stay tuned for all the details. Follow Young Love Mommy on Instagram & Facebook to find out ways to win.

I will post a review of these little shoes and you will fall in love. I’m so looking forward to having one of my readers take this home.

Thanks for stopping in and please share with your friends with little ones.

GOOD LUCK!!!